Imagine a scenario: you’re talking to your friend, when suddenly, you use the wrong pronoun. It makes things awkward and you have no idea how to proceed. The question is: What do you do when you misgender a trans person?
Your first reaction may to be to freak out and apologize repeatedly. Don’t! This could manipulate your friend into feeling guilty, something they shouldn’t have to feel. In order not to overreact, you might feel inclined to ignore the mistake and move on. This could also be problematic and lead to your friend thinking that you don’t care.
But you do care about your friend. You didn’t mean to misgender them, and you want them to know that. The response is simple: apologize once, correct yourself by using the right pronoun (most important—this reaffirms their identity!), and continue with the conversation. This approach lets them know that you realize that you made a mistake, without making them feel like they’re an inconvenience to you.
Pronoun slip-ups happen to everyone. The most important thing is that you let your trans friend know that you support them 100%. Practice their pronouns so you get them right next time!
This is a guest post by Adam, one of Maine Family Planning’s student interns. Adam is pursuing a degree in creative writing. When he’s not writing for class or for Maine Family Planning’s blog, he’s petting cats.
No one should have their decision about abortion, pregnancy, and family made for them because they can’t afford medical care. Despite the fact that the Constitution is meant to protect everyone, politicians have used the Hyde Amendment to deny abortion coverage for those struggling to get by for 40 years.
This week is United for Abortion Coverage Week of Action – the week we come together to demand that politicians stop excluding the most vulnerable—including low-income people, women of color, young people, immigrants, transgender and gender non-conforming people—from abortion coverage.
On Friday, September 30, join us and put your best face forward for abortion rights in our Be Bold Photo booth in Portland and Bangor!
Be Bold Photo booth
Friday, Sept. 30
11:30 a.m. – 1:30 p.m.
Portland: Monument Square
Bangor: West Market Square
Can’t join us in person in Portland or Bangor? No problem. Join us virtually from wherever you are: simply upload your selfie to social media using the hashtags #BeBoldEndHyde and #BeBoldME.
You can also add a lime green #BeBoldEndHyde filter to your profile picture on Facebook or Twitter to show your support.
It’s been 40 years since Rep. Henry Hyde introduced an amendment to increase barriers to accessing abortion care. That’s 40 years politicians have been interfering with women’s ability to make the decisions that are best for themselves and their families.
It’s time to get rid of the Hyde Amendment. On Friday, join thousands of people around the country who are united for abortion access. Share your photo and tell politicians: Be Bold, End Hyde.
See you there!
Things I do from my phone:
- Keep in touch with friends and family
- Listen to podcasts (and Beyoncé)
- Check my bank account balance
- Look up driving directions
- …Basically everything important
- Schedule appointments with Maine Family Planning (!!!)
We’re excited to announce that online scheduling is now available at MaineFamilyPlanning.org.
While current patients have been able to schedule online (using the Patient Portal) for a few years, new patients have always had to call us or come to a clinic to make an appointment. Now, anyone can make an appointment online, day or night.
Why schedule online?
Need to make an appointment but don’t want people around you to overhear your concerns? We know it can be tough to find time and privacy to call us during business hours, and while nothing freaks us out, chances are you may not want your coworkers, family, or strangers in the coffee shop to know about your birth control method or that you think you might have a UTI.
You can schedule your visit using a computer, smartphone, or tablet whenever and wherever works best for you. Waiting in line at the grocery store and just remembered you need your next Depo shot? Only have a couple minutes during your lunch break to schedule an STD test? Did you put off calling about your annual exam until after our offices close? No worries—our website is always open.
Peace of Mind
We know what it’s like to feel anxious about something going on with our bodies. We also know the relief that comes with knowing you’ve scheduled time to figure things out with a healthcare provider. With online scheduling available 24/7, you don’t have to lose sleep worrying about when you’ll be able to get a pregnancy test or see a Nurse Practitioner about that weird bump you just found.
How it works: Continue reading
The Supreme Court’s decision today is the biggest victory for abortion rights in a generation
This morning, the Supreme Court of the United States issued a highly anticipated decision on Whole Women’s Health vs. Hellerstedt–undeniably the most significant abortion case before the court in decades.
The case centers on a deceptive TRAP law (Targeted Regulation of Abortion Providers) that has succeeded in shutting down 75% of the abortion clinics in Texas. These laws place onerous, medically unnecessary, and ultimately, impossible admitting privilege and surgical center requirements on abortion clinics (but not on other outpatient clinics providing similar or even riskier procedures).
In today’s 5-3 decision, the Court held that the requirements of the Texas law do nothing to protect the health and safety of those seeking first trimester abortions, and “place a substantial obstacle in the path of women seeking a previability abortion, constitute an undue burden on abortion access, and thus violate the constitution.” Plainly stated: the court overturned the restrictive law, stating that the burden placed on those seeking abortion is so significant that it violates their constitutional right to abortion. Continue reading
Starting this month, Maine Family Planning will be offering consultations and prescriptions for HIV pre-exposure prophylaxis – commonly called PrEP – a daily pill that significantly reduces the risk of HIV infection (HIV is the virus that causes AIDS). You can talk to a Nurse Practitioner at any of our 18 clinics about your HIV status, your individual risk, and whether PrEP is a good option for you.
Want to know more? We’ve answered some of the most commonly asked questions below. If PrEP sounds like something that might be right for you, give us a call to set up a visit.
What is PrEP?
PrEP (brand name Truveda) is an antiretroviral medication that can be taken by an HIV negative person before potential HIV exposure to reduce risk of HIV infection. When taken consistently and correctly, PrEP is over 90% effective at preventing HIV transmission through sex, and over 70% effective at preventing HIV transmission through IV drug injection.
How does it work? Continue reading
The following interview was conducted with a Maine woman who has had a medication abortion. She remains anonymous in order to protect her privacy and safety.
Why do you feel it’s important to share your story?
I want to do my part to de-stigmatize abortion while using my story to help expand access and options for reproductive health care here in Maine.
When I looked around for sympathetic abortion stories, all I could find were narratives about people who chose to get abortions because they were survivors of incest and sexual assault, or they were teenagers living in extreme poverty. I understand why some organizations lift up these kinds of narratives. They underscore the profound human rights abuses that occur when people are denied the right to abortion care and provide a powerful counter-point to right-wing arguments that anti-choice laws protect women and girls. I think that these stories are important and need to be heard.
However, these stories do not reflect my own experience. When I got pregnant I was 29-years-old, in a loving partnership, and was using birth control. Neither my partner nor I had a job at the time, and our financial situation did play a role in my decision to terminate my pregnancy. But it was just one factor, and it could have been overcome. When it came down to it, I just didn’t want a child at that time. I thought I might want one in the future, but it was not the right moment. I have long believed that there is nothing wrong with abortion and that people should get to choose when and if they have kids. Continue reading
This piece originally appeared in the Bangor Daily News on April 4, 2016.
Last week, Donald Trump stated that there should be some kind of punishment for women who have abortions. We saw a heartening and swift response from friends, colleagues, leaders and the media: Trump’s comments were outrageous and infuriating.
We’re glad people are angry about Trump’s comments about abortion. We hope people will continue to push back against any attempts to punish people who have abortions, provide abortions, or simply consider abortion. It’s important to recognize, however, that Trump simply said out loud what opponents of abortion have believed for years, what Ted Cruz has voted for and what John Kasich has enacted.
Since 2011, states have passed nearly 300 laws restricting abortion, passing 57 in the past year alone. In states like Texas, Mississippi and Louisiana, abortion has been so severely restricted it may as well be illegal for a large number of women.
Let’s be clear: Those who exercise their constitutionally protected right to seek, access and provide abortion are already being punished, and any efforts to restrict or ban abortion are attempts — either overt or veiled — to punish women who seek abortion. Continue reading
Through your contributions and pledges, we raised $10,018.00 during our 2016 Pledge-A-Picketer campaign.
This came in the form of 50 individual contributions and 20 pledges. Our individual gifts ranged from $3.00 to $1,000.00, with the majority being $25 or less. Pledges of just a few cents per picketer added up quickly , totaling almost half of the full amount raised. This proves that there is strength in numbers and that every dollar goes a long way toward reaching our goals.
We counted 1,105 picketers over the 40 day Pledge-A-Picketer campaign–that’s a whole lot of judgment and intimidation. While there is some relief now that the daily protests have ended, we continue to see picketers at our Augusta office every week. Your continued advocacy and support is crucial to ensuring that patients can access reproductive care all year long.
We are so grateful for your support. Knowing that our friends care about the work we do gives us the strength to pass the picketers’ hateful signs with courage rather than fear. On behalf of our patients and staff, we can’t thank you enough for your generosity.
Carol M. Goetz
Vice President of Development
It’s been almost a year since the Christian Civic League announced that their prayers were the reason Maine Family Planning’s 2015 Pledge-A-Picketer campaign raised about half of the previous year’s total. In response, Mike Tipping and Dan Savage went to bat for MFP by spreading the word about the CCL’s outrageous claims, and with your help, we far exceeded our 2015 Pledge-A-Picketer goal.
We are so grateful for your support and for the generosity shown by people around the world. Last year, we raised over $60,000 through almost 1,500 contributions, with an average gift of less than $50. At least one gift came from every one of the 50 states and from as far away as the UK , Thailand, and Australia.
It was an amazing outpouring of love and support for the patients and staff who have to pass the hateful signs and judgmental picketers throughout February and March. We cannot thank you enough.
There’s only a week left for the 2016 Pledge-A-Picketer campaign, but we’re not done raising money to support reproductive health care in Maine. Don’t let the picketers think their judgment, intimidation, and lies have the power to stop us: help us raise $3,000 in the next 7 days. Continue reading
It’s SPRING BREAK season! Which means….
You’re probably thinking about this:
Instead of this:And you’d much rather be here:
Instead of here:
If you are dreaming of sand and surf, you can support Maine Family Planning by purchasing raffle tickets for an all-inclusive trip to Hawaii. Check out all the details here.
Tickets are $100 each and we will be drawing the winner at our Spring Soiree on May 7th at the Portland Country Club. Only 145 tickets will be sold, so don’t wait to get your ticket.
Buy a raffle ticket online!
Or print & send this flyer to MFP by mail with your check!