Imagine a scenario: you’re talking to your friend, when suddenly, you use the wrong pronoun. It makes things awkward and you have no idea how to proceed. The question is: What do you do when you misgender a trans person?
Your first reaction may to be to freak out and apologize repeatedly. Don’t! This could manipulate your friend into feeling guilty, something they shouldn’t have to feel. In order not to overreact, you might feel inclined to ignore the mistake and move on. This could also be problematic and lead to your friend thinking that you don’t care.
But you do care about your friend. You didn’t mean to misgender them, and you want them to know that. The response is simple: apologize once, correct yourself by using the right pronoun (most important—this reaffirms their identity!), and continue with the conversation. This approach lets them know that you realize that you made a mistake, without making them feel like they’re an inconvenience to you.
Pronoun slip-ups happen to everyone. The most important thing is that you let your trans friend know that you support them 100%. Practice their pronouns so you get them right next time!
This is a guest post by Adam, one of Maine Family Planning’s student interns. Adam is pursuing a degree in creative writing. When he’s not writing for class or for Maine Family Planning’s blog, he’s petting cats.
Things I do from my phone:
- Keep in touch with friends and family
- Listen to podcasts (and Beyoncé)
- Check my bank account balance
- Look up driving directions
- …Basically everything important
- Schedule appointments with Maine Family Planning (!!!)
We’re excited to announce that online scheduling is now available at MaineFamilyPlanning.org.
While current patients have been able to schedule online (using the Patient Portal) for a few years, new patients have always had to call us or come to a clinic to make an appointment. Now, anyone can make an appointment online, day or night.
Why schedule online?
Need to make an appointment but don’t want people around you to overhear your concerns? We know it can be tough to find time and privacy to call us during business hours, and while nothing freaks us out, chances are you may not want your coworkers, family, or strangers in the coffee shop to know about your birth control method or that you think you might have a UTI.
You can schedule your visit using a computer, smartphone, or tablet whenever and wherever works best for you. Waiting in line at the grocery store and just remembered you need your next Depo shot? Only have a couple minutes during your lunch break to schedule an STD test? Did you put off calling about your annual exam until after our offices close? No worries—our website is always open.
Peace of Mind
We know what it’s like to feel anxious about something going on with our bodies. We also know the relief that comes with knowing you’ve scheduled time to figure things out with a healthcare provider. With online scheduling available 24/7, you don’t have to lose sleep worrying about when you’ll be able to get a pregnancy test or see a Nurse Practitioner about that weird bump you just found.
How it works: Continue reading
It’s SPRING BREAK season! Which means….
You’re probably thinking about this:
Instead of this:And you’d much rather be here:
Instead of here:
If you are dreaming of sand and surf, you can support Maine Family Planning by purchasing raffle tickets for an all-inclusive trip to Hawaii. Check out all the details here.
Tickets are $100 each and we will be drawing the winner at our Spring Soiree on May 7th at the Portland Country Club. Only 145 tickets will be sold, so don’t wait to get your ticket.
Buy a raffle ticket online!
Or print & send this flyer to MFP by mail with your check!
Maine Family Planning is proud to congratulate Connie Adler, MD, who will be inducted into The Maine Women’s Hall of Fame on March 19th. Honorees are women whose work has had a significant, enduring positive impact on the lives of women in Maine.
Dr. Adler certainly fits the bill; as one colleague stated in his nomination letter:
“She is a force of nature who has let nothing stand in her way in her quest for better health care for the women of Maine. In her practice of medicine she has worked tirelessly to provide access to quality women’s health services for all women regardless of race, socioeconomic status, or co-existing mental health or substance abuse problems.”
It has been Adler’s mission to promote recognition that the care of women must include the pursuit of reproductive rights, contraceptive choice, and prevention of domestic violence and sexual assault—and that healthcare must be accessible to all Mainers, regardless of where they live or how much they make. As another colleague notes:
“Dr. Adler’s advocacy in promoting women’s healthcare has made a significant difference for Maine women that spans beyond a generation. Her work includes all levels of women’s care, from counseling on nutrition and maternal health for pregnant women, working on issues that educate the community on domestic violence to bringing global perspectives on women’s healthcare.” Continue reading
Maine Women’s Day at the State House is coming up on Thursday, January 21st, and we’d love for you to join us! With the start of the 2016 Legislative Session, it’s important to make sure legislators, press, and allies are paying attention to how policy decisions affect Maine women. Join us to help raise the visibility of Maine women, learn more about policies that will impact our lives during this session, and strengthen your skills to advocate on the issues that matter most to you.
Thursday, January 21, 2016
9:00 AM – 3:00 PM
Maine State House & Cross Office Building, Augusta
Please wear RED!
Register here: http://bit.ly/womensday2016
Need more reasons to join us for Women’s Day at the State House? Here are our top three: Continue reading
No matter which of the many winter holidays you do (or do not) celebrate, chances are that you’ll spend some amount of time traveling, celebrating, or visiting with friends and family. While this can be a joyful time of year, it can also be a difficult, stressful, or just plain hectic season for many.
Our expertise is in sexual and reproductive health, but the overall health and well-being of Mainers is ultimately our highest priority. There are lots of ways to take care of yourself and your loved ones during the holidays—here are just a few tips from us.
If you are traveling and forgot to pack your birth control:
If you’re traveling (almost) anywhere in Maine and need to refill your birth control, pick up emergency contraception, or stock up on condoms, we can help. With 18 clinics across the state (plus our partners at Planned Parenthood), there’s likely a Family Planning center near you. Most clinics offer same-day and next-day appointments, and you don’t have to be a current patient to use our services. Let there be peace on Earth AND peace of mind this season!
If you are LGBTQ and not out to (or supported by) your family:
The holidays can be a stressful time for LGBTQ people whose families either don’t know about or don’t respect their identities. Take care of yourself by staying in touch with friends or other supportive people who respect your identity. Remember that it’s okay to take time and space for yourself–escaping to a quiet room or going for a walk can be good ways to remove yourself from stressful situations. You may also want to practice answering questions from family and friends–“I don’t really want to talk about that right now—is there any more pie?” is a perfectly acceptable answer! If you’re a parent or caring adult in an LGBTQ person’s life, check out The Parents Project for information and resources.
If you feel alone and need someone to talk to: Continue reading
In 1977, the Hyde Amendment barred the use of federal funds to pay for most abortions. While states are free to use their own funds to cover abortion, Maine does not. As a result, MaineCare covers pregnancy-related care for women who choose to carry a pregnancy to term, but withholds coverage from eligible women who decide to have an abortion. The result is a significant coverage gap for those insured by MaineCare.
Image courtesy of Repeal Hyde Art Project
Maine Family Planning believes that every person–regardless of income –should be able to make the decisions that are best for their health and their family. That’s why today we joined with the American Civil Liberties Union, Mabel Wadsworth Women’s Health Center, and Planned Parenthood of Northern New England in filing a lawsuit challenging Maine’s prohibition of MaineCare coverage for abortion care. We are proud to take this step toward ensuring fair and equal health care access for all Mainers.
The Legal Landscape in Maine
Although Maine public policy expressly prohibits restricting a woman’s “exercise of her private decision to terminate a pregnancy,” and Maine’s Constitution guarantees that all people have the right to pursue liberty, safety, and equality, the Maine Department of Health and Human Services has been withholding insurance coverage for abortion for decades.
At its core, the prohibition on abortion coverage is discriminatory. Continue reading
Maine Family Planning is getting ready for #GivingTuesday and we need your support!
It’s that time of year again; the weather is getting colder and for many of us in Maine that means breaking out the shovels and snow tires. It also means that the holiday season is approaching quickly. While you may be starting to think about holiday shopping lists and hosting family gatherings, Maine Family Planning is getting ready for #GivingTuesday!
In case you haven’t heard, the goal of #GivingTuesday is to create a global day of giving back, celebrating generosity and kindness. The day itself falls on the Tuesday following American Thanksgiving each year. This year #GivingTuesday is on December 1st.
We all know that this time of year can be incredibly hectic so we’ve come up with some ways to #GiveDifferently with Maine Family Planning. Monthly gifts spread your contribution over twelve months, so you don’t spend your holiday bonus all in one place. Giving in someone else’s name makes a great holiday gift, especially for that activist in your life who cares passionately about reproductive rights. There are even ways to contribute while you finish up your holiday shopping with Amazon Smiles and of course, one time gifts make a big difference too!
For too long, lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer (LGBTQ) individuals have faced obstacles to getting the health care they need. LGBTQ people are more likely to be uninsured, more likely to experience chronic health problems, and regularly face stigma and discrimination in health care settings. The Affordable Care Act (ACA) makes it easier for LGBTQ people to get affordable care and protects against discrimination so that as a country, we can begin to address health disparities faced by this community.
What do LGBTQ people (and their families, partners, and health care providers) need to know? Here are just a few of ways in which things have changed.
(Click on this infographic for a downloadable version.)
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Open enrollment for Marketplace Insurance Plans starts November 1st, 2015, and remains open until February 1st, 2016. For those who don’t have health insurance, the time to sign up for coverage is quickly approaching, and Maine Family Planning is here to help.
Last year, we helped over 900 Mainers find and enroll in an affordable plan; we can help you find coverage this year.
Reproductive health care is essential for well-being and success. The ability to decide whether and when to have children allows people to pursue education, fulfilling careers, and to raise safe and healthy families if or when they’re ready. As important as reproductive health care is, it’s not the only kind of care people need. That’s why Maine Family Planning will be helping patients and their families enroll in affordable health insurance plans– we want Mainers to be covered for ALL of their healthcare needs, including Primary Care, prescriptions, and any emergencies that may come up. Maine Family Planning has always been a place where anyone can get affordable health care, regardless of insurance status. While we do accept private and public health insurance, many people who come to us are uninsured. In fact, we’re often one of the only health centers that people without health insurance can afford to visit.
What is the Affordable Care Act (ACA)? Continue reading